WHAT’S THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN?

My very wise father, Sidney Rosenblum of blessed memory, taught me this one. It’s my favorite coping tool, and I hope it becomes among your favorite coping tools, too. I’ve used it for big stuff and little stuff. I’m stuck in traffic and will be late for a meeting (little stuff). I’m going to lose my job (bigger). Someone I…

 

TO CHANGE A RELATIONSHIP, CHANGE THE PRONOUN

I stumbled upon a powerful relationship-booster recently while indulging in my favorite sport: Kvetching. I can’t remember exactly what I was kvetching about, but in a house that expands and contracts depending on the week — with up to six kids ages 25 to 9, and a partner who comes home from work exhausted and in need of solitude when…

 

N.N.I., ALSO KNOWN AS “NO NEW INFORMATION”

You may have noticed by now that human relationships, while being essential to our happiness and survival, are also often a pain in the ass. Sometimes, you desperately want people to do the right thing and, guess what? They don’t! They can’t apologize or ask for forgiveness. They can’t pick up the slack, or their underwear, they just can’t, and…